Valentine's Eve Special?

Love is unexplainable and don’t expect me to explain that for you. Once a guy asked me to define Friendship and I had to say him words of a poet

 

            “Friendship is one which doesn’t need to be expressed. It’s a feeling which you have for each other. The day you think of telling your friend that he is your friend ….. He ceases to be your friend”

 

I agree with him almost. I have never said to any of my friends that I am your friend and you are my friend or anything like “I love you, I cannot think of life without you ….”.

 

But I find many lovers who tell each other “I love you, I cannot think of life without you ….” almost daily. I think this is sign of insecurity in their relationship. I feel true Love is never told but realized first.

 

Are you thinking of ways of expressing your Love to someone by words or deeds? Then its not Love. I don’t know exactly what Love is but I can say what is not Love!

 

The greatest thing that has happened to this world is Love. Love is that which runs the world. The Hero is Moulin Rouge says

 

            “Love is life …. Love is like oxygen. It lifts you. It keeps us alive “……..

 

But is there true love in world? This question itself is wrong as Love is always true. But in this modern urban life Love which is defined as that which blossoms between a man and woman ....I don’t find true Love but Love as a opportunity to survive , fulfill needs, and ….

 

People run after money and forget the ultimate goal. Once there was a offer for a Television. They were offering mp3 player for free with the Television. The mp3 player offered was very cute and many bought the Television for the free mp3 player they got.

 

After few months they realized that the television is not worth and caused lot of trouble but the mp3 player worked well. Many things in life are like this. We set out with a main aim and atlast achieve all other things other than the main aim.

 

Love is also something like that. People set out to find their true Love. But they have their own reservations like she/he should be working, should have assets…….., After filtering with all their conditions and getting married to her they realize that they don’t have true Love for each other.

 

Many families work this way here. A arrangement to suit parents needs especially their social status. Love and Marriage is not business which it has become now. Marriage has now been thought of a way to make money. Man created this money and is running after it always. Let God save us all?

 

Getting Married !

We do have discussions. Some become debate. What do people do when they don’t have work. People chat . One of the good discussions we had in your workplace is here.

 

Boy1 :

Finally my friend is getting married. The whole processes started about 1 year ago, by posting add in Matrimonial column in TOI. He was looking happy as if his details would come on Times Magazine Front-page. Anyways, pile of Bio-datas came and sorting algorithm applied. Final Results were googled and their family-history charts were prepared.

 

Now crucial time, when our hero has to meet heroine. I remember, he was nervous. Cautious about his dressJ. Should he wear formal or look like cool-dude? Where should he meet? Girl was also working as s/w engg. in b’lore. So may be at KFC, McD or Café Coffee Day or Barista or may b some movie or may be park….

But park will look little awkward. They are meant for either families or dating couples.

“Oh Come on!! It’s not a date, he screamed at me. “Yeah, Parental syndrome, attack every eligible bachelor at 24-25”, I thought J

 

What should he ask her? I suggested, education background.

“I am not going to hire her in my company”, he yelled

 

He made basic questionnaires

1.      How much time do you spend on watching K series serials? ( he wanted to know if she like AXN or not?)..basic question..i think…yes

2.      What kinda movies you like? ( action or melodramatic?)

3.      How do u handle impossible people? ( I am not sure, why he asked?)…….etc etc

 

 

He went to his first date-arranged-by-parents. Then couple of more in coming weeks. Last day, I got his e-wedding card, in pdf format. Not sure if these questions helped him or not. But I am happy that he is entering into new phase of life. I hope he got right partner his so-called “SELECTION PROCEDURE” . JJ

 

What will I ask? ….. I have list readyJJ what about u??

 

P.S No offense meant.

 

 

Girl 1 :

 

If all the guys are going to ask the same questions, its surely going to be damn boring for the gals.....

U could probably create a committee and conduct an exam instead!!! Exam location - may be at KFC, McD or Café Coffee Day or Barista or may b some movie or may be park….    :-)

 

 P. S: I am no representative of the gals.. I have answered my questions successfully !!

 

 

Boy 1 :

My list … ( Solely depends on my observations..might b wrong…)

 

1.      ' What qualities you want  your groom must have?

Answer depends upon person 2 person. But if she says Trust, faith and all crap. It may b fake. Lots of tutorials available J.. only answer accepted is Practical

 

2.      How you view life? ( you can know how intellectual she actually is)

Best answer will b “LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL” n  if she says LIFE SUCKS, means she works for call centerJJ

 

3.      What will u choose if given a choice, companionship or love if given a choice to choose only one? ( Again answer depends on P2P)

4.      fav color…well that’s can b lots of informative… beware of redJ then…obviously pink

5.      fav actor, if SRK, RUN….second choice will be John Abraham( you then start looking at your lean bodyL)

6.      hobbies?? I like cooking, music n reading…( most of the girls say in same order too… as if they cram this answer)

7.      ask her blog’s link? ( if she ask, what is blog? Say Bye)

8.       how frequently does she chat? ( 2-5 times in a week is average)

9.       Boy friends?? ( mostly will say..chchheeeee)

10.   late night movie/dinner( parents will say no)

11.   Then ice cream… Chocolate… ( pls have some unique choiceL)

 

 

Can add more…??

 

P.S No offense meant…. ( afraid of Naari-shaktiJJJ)

 

Boy 2 :

 

Couple of practical exams

 

(1)   Withdraw money from an ATM within 20 sec

(2)   Open lid of the pickle jar within 5 sec

(3)   Dress up for an unplanned party within 10 min

 

 

No offence meant ( same as Mayank – afraid of Mahila Mandal )

 

 

Boy 3:

Do you like me ? (Basic question )  (Hope she says YES )

1.                  How much money do you want every month for shopping ?

2.                  My pay varies every month (CPI,VCPI,IPI..) Will you be able to cope up with that ?

3.                  Do you like going to US ? I hate it (bcos I don’t have any onsite J )

4.                  Do you know singing/dancing ? ( pls..don’t show your skills after marriage J )

5.                  Do you know martial arts ? ( Hope she says NO)

Boy 4:

 

These days when you are not the sole bread earner (North Indians read as roti/parantha/dal/sabzee earner and South Indians read as rice/idly/vada/dosa earner) Qs 2 to 4 dont have any importance

Answers 2 to 4 would be like

Ans to 2: How much do you want? You tell me and I will decide how much can I shop based on that

Ans to 3: I have a fixed compensation at my company unlike yours where you are always in deficit

Ans to 4: Dont worry I hold a H-1 you can apply for H-4 if you also want to come along. But do you know how to switch on dishwasher, washing machine, vacuum the carpet and drive a car?

 

 

Boy 5 :

 

1. Do you like me ? (Basic question )  (Hope she says YES ) – Am I supposed to?
2. How much money do you want every month for shopping ? – How much can u afford?
3. My pay varies every month. Will you be able to cope up with that ?  - why don’t u get a better job?
4. Do you like going to US ? I hate it (bcos I don’t have any onsite J )  - not with you!
5. Do you know singing/dancing ? ( pls..don’t show your skills after marriage J )  - I’ll make u sing & dance once we tie the knot.
6. Do you know martial arts ? ( Hope she says NO)  -  are u afraid of me already?

 

 

Boy 6 :

 

Hey what about these???

 

1. can I have your blood report for HIv, since our future is at stake
2. can I have your previous boyfriend’s phone no. coz I don’t want haunting calls at night
3. can I have ur sister’s and cousin’s phone no, so that I have a back-up incase u run away
4. shall we sign a pre-nuptial stating that when we separate you will not ask for alimony

 

Girl 2:

 

Hmmnn…if these are the questions then I guess you better be prepared like this when you do so…

 

 

 

Hard Thoughts !

I get Forwards daily and I don’t feel like reading most of them. This one struck me by large. May be its related to me. The photograph and the photographer are amazing. The feeling on his face ….the mood of the room.. The door which is open …says it all. What will you do when everything goes wrong ………………



Suicide ……. A thing which may be a chance to free oneself of all worries in the world. Or is it so? Or is it a brave act of self destruction. It gives a lot of pain for people around him or her. A lasting pain. My friend had to go through it recently. Suicide is the most coward act of escaping from your duties.



No one wins in Life at last. It’s the fate which wins and takes over.



Once I was playing a game of chess. I was about to lose in the Game when my friend asked me “why are you playing the game still as you know you are going to lose.” I replied her “Why are you still live this life when you know you are going to die atlast”



Why do people commit suicide. Do they think there is nothing for them in life. They cant blame the society. The society is like a mirror and reflects your mode.



Just start your day by smiling at the first person you see. You can see the difference. Many have forgot to smile. Just try to remember when was the last time you remembered smiling at someone or enjoying a butterfly going around.



Its not true that butterfly has become extinct or you have lost your smile but we have not given importance to them. We are always searching for unhappiness or ways to be unhappy.



I see people feeling sad for getting 99%. The reason was they couldn’t score the 100. They don’t feel happy for the 99 marks they scored but they feel bad for the 1 mark they lost. This is the case with many.

I know a friend whose short term aim was to score good marks in SSLC. After he came with flying colours in the exams he was still not happy. I asked him whats the problem. He replied I am thinking about how to excel in the pre college exams……. Postponing happiness….



Success and failure are very relative …………. So lets enjoy everything in life. You have this one life to live. And going by logic you live say 100 years ….. you sleep for atleast 50 years and stay awake for just 50 years. Each second is like a moment which is being lost as we speak … u read and I write. Let us try to enjoy each of them as we don’t know whether there will be another moment like this

Tired !

Do I become tired of working hard? No I have also become tired of no work. I thought of reading for my exams of late. But still …….. couldn’t start preparation in a big way. I feel disappointed at my deeds …. Mostly because I set high expectations.

 

Even this blog is a child of the idea to write a Novel. What a novel idea. You can see some chapters in this blog. I have to complete it one day.I have decided I am not writing a story based on me. I need a strong subject and I need to research a lot before kick start. I like planning and like to do things according to the plan.

 

But now my life is not planned ……. Fine I am in no mood to write now. May be tomorrow.

 

My Friends Dreams

February 01 2006 may be a great day for many for many reasons. But For me its one of the day which I have been waiting for long. It was a quite ordinary day for me. I woke up pretty late in the morning at 8.30 AM got to office by 11.30 AM. My GirlFriend (who is that? ) fought with me as usual for many things . I had lunch …… snacks blab blab la.

So when I started walking to catch my bus I called my Friend(?) and …….

Myself (M) : Hi da how r u officer?

Friend (F) : Ya fine

M : So how’s first day at office?

F : Ya good ….

M : Any meetings

F : Just we are seated for a meeting where they are going to decide where we are going to get allotted

M : So where do you want to get allocated

F : anywhere

………….

So you may ask whats so interesting, you can call your friend on any day and whats so big about first day in office.

The thing is that there are lot of thing that cannot be expressed over a phone and many people will understand that when you had finished reading this.

Lets get to my friend. I saw him first when I was 10 years old and was entering into my new classroom in a new school. A big tall strong guy was seated on the floor. I looked at him to leave me way so that I can pass through. But he looked at me as if he is going to beat me up. At that moment I had only hatred for him.

A don’t know why we became friends nor do I wanna research about it. What happened has happened and couldn’t have happened the other way. We studied together for 5 years. I went to a better school for a different reason. But my friend had a different road to travel. His father had decided then that he is to stop studies and look after the family business.

I don’t know whether its a fair call. I don’t know how I could have reacted. Along with working for his business he has studied very well till then. So he became one of the rare talents who became a school drop out.

He is such a personality that he started to support his friend’s studies , working hard to improve his business. He is a natural businessman. He can sell anything anywhere ….. sorry He knows what to sell where. I was very exited about his talents.

Two years passed by and ……. That was the worst years of his career I think. He wanted to study but didn’t know whom to tell. All his friends had their own problems. He couldn’t tell anyone his problems as he always had other’s problems to solve. So a man who had lived with a desire and dream in his heart and only his heart knew about it.

It was the year of entrance and We all were admitted into some college. So the friend who was busy till then solving all his friend’s problems suddenly started to feel lonely….. (may be no problem to solve )Yes there was no one for him. He used to say to me many times that “You (friends) are my strength and you are my weakness”

And then came a announcement which came as a absolute surprise. His father decided that he should go to schooling again. I don’t know what the reason behind it was. May be a father knows what his son wants? It came as a big surprise to my friend. He didn’t know whether to cry or laugh. God has played enough games with him.

He had to start back again. His friends were not near him to support him nor his parents. He has to search for a career which was lost 2 years back. Life is a search and he was ready for that. He wanted to first finish his pre college exams.

With little help he got through the exams with flying colours. I think it was a record for someone to get more than 85% marks in pre college considering he never went to school for 3 years. It was enough bigger achievement when he had scored more marks in English than the guy who taught him had got!. He had done so well that he started to feel that his marks are not enough.

So the first barrier was atlast over but still long way to go. The biggest barrier was his friends. He wanted to walk this life along with them but they were all running ahead of him for manythings. Yes his strength and weakness ………….was the biggest barrier.

Now he a year behind his friends but running fast to catch them. He is such a runner who wants not only him but all his fellow friends to win the race. So he did Bachelor of commerce. But he never studied … Do we need to give certificate for swimming to a fish.
But even that happened after 3 years in college he became a graduate. I couldn’t go for the function. May be something else big was waiting for him.

God still had lot of other issue lining up for him. What next after BCOM. All his friends had finished BE and had started working in big companies for big salaries. Still behind the race!

Ok lets do something big! MBA. A school dropout doing a MBA! Ya it happened he got enrolled to a college which was ranked among top 50 colleges in the country. Even I was surprised. Pain was one thing which he had endured all these days waiting for that elusive day when he can leave this college ( the things which he wanted to enter few years back very badly).

Yes that day has arrived and its today. He has left the college and joined a institution as financial consultant. This may not be a big achievement for many. Even I don’t think it’s a big one because for him there is no limit. He can achieve for more and I would like to write about him more.

I feel very proud of my friend. Even my parents and my brother felt very envy that I had a friend which they don’t have. Long way to go and many barriers to cross. But he has crossed enough for his young age. Motivation is something which many require in life to move up but he is man who moved up without that ………

Just I wrote what I thought which I usually do...